A 27-year-old woman said she is slowly repairing a friendship after she gave birth in her friend’s car. In a Reddit update, she wrote that the friend and the friend’s husband stopped speaking to her afterward.
The Reddit user, whose name was not disclosed, initially sought advice and later posted an update as people continued to comment on her post.
She referred to her 31-year-old friend as Alice. The two women met in person a few days before the update, when her baby was around one month old.
Their reunion started with an uninvited visit and ended up with apologies from both parties. Alice said she would need to rebuild their friendship gradually.
Woman Asked on Reddit How to Repair the Friendship
The original post had a blunt title. “I (27F) accidentally had my baby in my friend’s (31F) car. Now she & her husband don’t want to speak to me. How do I fix this?” it read.
The update did not retell the birth. It focused on what came after and the advice she said she tried to take to heart.
Alice Blocked Her in the Weeks After the Birth
Per the Reddit user, Alice blocked her after the delivery. Alice later explained that the whole experience was a lot to process and that she didn’t initially feel upset with the new mom.
Instead, her husband was upset. The creator wrote that he was furious about his car and that he already “isn’t our biggest fan.”
The woman said he was angry that she hadn’t reached out sooner after the baby was born and that her first message wasn’t apologetic enough.
She said she doesn’t blame him for being upset about the car. Still, she wrote, “I do wish we had had different/better communication.”
Alice told her the husband had convinced her to feel angry and that the messages she received during that stretch were too much for her at the time.
An Unannounced Visit Turned Into a Reunion
Alice came to the couple’s home without warning, the Reddit user wrote. She had just stepped out, so her wife called her back. When she arrived, she was overwhelmed with emotion.
“I was just so damn happy to see her I immediately started bawling; she did too,” she wrote.
They talked for a long time. Alice said she had realized she was upset about the situation, not about her friend and that she should be relieved everyone was okay. She even asked her husband to stop bringing it up.
Alice also made a joke that meant a lot to the creator. She said she was “proud to be such a big part of her birth story,” which, the user wrote, “gave me more relief than anything else she’s said.”
The Couple Paid for the Damaged Car
The car was not totaled, the Reddit user said. Only the front seat where she had been sitting was damaged. It was cleaned and fixed before Alice’s visit; the owner has it back and she has paid back everything.
The husband, she added, “doesn’t like driving it anymore.”
The Creator Said She Wished She Had Handled It Differently
The creator wrote that she wished she had handled the situation differently. She also added that she is struggling with the trauma of giving birth, which she realized only when she was not obsessing about the friendship anymore.
Her wife, the baby and she are all okay, she said. As for Alice’s husband, she was frank. “Don’t love the guy, but I can’t do more than be her friend, I think.”
She thanked readers and signed off. “Reddit can be overwhelming, but you’ve helped me a lot,” she wrote, adding that it would be her last update.
