A mom on TikTok has gone viral after she took a stand against a harmful narrative about bullies. In the video, user @jfabfindingauthenticity or “Jfab” shared a story about her mom telling her daughter that a bully “liked her” because he was bullying.
“Be careful what nonsense you’re conditioning your children to accept about abuse,” her video was captioned.
In the video, she revealed that her 8-year-old daughter was attending an art camp, and one boy in particular had taken to bullying her child.
The mom explains that the boy was caught smearing paint into her daughter’s hair. “He then gave her the ‘loser’ sign and stuck his tongue out at her,” she explained.
Talk To Your Child About Their Feelings
“She told me this, and we talked about her feelings and worked it out, but when we got to my mom’s house, she wanted to share the story with my mom,” Jfab explains.
“So my mom says, ‘Do you know why he did that?’ And when my daughter asked ‘why?’ she responded with a big smile, ‘Because he likes you!’”
Jfab wasn’t willing to accept that excuse. “I said no. We are not teaching my 8-year-old daughter that when a boy treats you like sh*t, it means he likes you.”
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Jfab believes that adults bully because ” they don’t like themselves, and they feel entitled to take it out on you. It’s not because they like you. In fact, it has nothing to do with you.”
Perhaps that train of thought is correct, and maybe Jfab is on to something since the same behavior many people have as adults was never corrected as children.
The Comments Section Lit Up With Others Sharing Their Similar Childhood Trauma
One user wrote, “My mom said the same thing about a boy bully when I was little until I came home with bruises, then she finally realized it wasn’t a crush he’s just mean.”
Another user shared: “That’s exactly what I got told when two boys bullied me. It stopped after I snuck a handwritten note about not judging others into his backpack, addressed to his mom.”
Remember, our children are little sponges, and they absorb everything we say. I applaud Jfab for taking a more direct approach with her daughter, and hopefully, her video will convince more parents to take a similar path with their children.
