Most of us would agree that “It’s better to give than receive,” but try telling that to a kid at Christmas. Children often struggle with the concept of giving generously and why we should. With a society focused on material goods and rampant videos of opening packages, how do we, as parents, teach our children generosity?
Experts agree that instilling a charitable attitude in our children is important. Taking the time to teach our children to give helps them have a better sense of community, improves their social skills, increases their self-esteem, and encourages gratitude.
Below are simple and effective ways that, together with your child, you can give back this holiday season.
Have your child choose
Discuss with your kids the different needs in your community; show them different charities in person or online. Let your child choose the organization that excites or interests them.
Remember, giving doesn’t always mean money. Volunteering time at a food pantry or kitchen, a clothing bank, an animal shelter, or packing holiday meals counts, too.
Participate in a Charity Event
Go online and search for local charity events happening in your area. Many larger organizations have local chapters that host events such as annual walks or runs.
Community charities often have monthly donation days, along with yearly special events such as a dinner or gala.
Write Thank-you Notes
Anytime your child receives a gift, have them write a thank-you note to the person who gave it. At Christmas, try keeping a list of gift items and who gave them. Then, use that list to personalize the notes and explain why the child appreciates that specific gift.
Even children as young as three can help write a basic thank-you note.
Hand Make, Then Hand Out
Help your child make holiday treats, cards, or ornaments and hand them out to neighbors, family, and friends. Creating a gift instills a sense of accomplishment, helps children take pride in their work, and teaches resilience.
Make sure to have your child help you distribute their creations so they can experience the joy of giving.
Lead by Example
Parents are the number one influence in their children’s lives. If your children see you being grateful, volunteering, and generous, they are more likely to do the same. When you volunteer, talk to your child about where you go, who you work with, and the benefits you receive.
If you give to a charity, show them the organization’s website. Discuss why you chose that charity, where your money goes, and who receives it.
Have a Giving Allowance
If your child does chores for money or receives an allowance, give them money specifically for a giving fund. After it reaches a certain amount, let your child decide how they would like to use the money for others.
Give them the freedom to donate it to a charity or cause of their choice, purchase items, or give it to someone in need.
Make It Routine
Just like modeling for our children, an attitude of appreciation starts at home. Having your children participate in chores around the house shows them that serving others begins with the family.
Including kids in daily household tasks such as laundry and dishes helps them value the work needed for everyday life.
Praise and Persistence
Acknowledge and praise your child for doing acts of kindness and giving, no matter how small. Talk about how they feel when sharing, giving, or being kind. Encourage your child to recall those feelings next time they struggle with empathy.
Remember that many little acts of generosity build into a life of giving and gratitude.
